The confident women who have learned to ignore the ostracizing commentary can be seen airing their disappointment for the show “More to Love” on Twitter under the hashtag #moretolove. Where they hoped to see an empowering representation of real women finding real love from a man who cares more about someone’s heart than their waist size, they see desperate, depressing women who believe this man is their last chance at love. Sadly, the women who relate have grown up their entire lives believing they are ugly and worthless because they have a few extra folds of skin on their body. If the narrative of “More to Love” continues in the same vein, I would suggest Fox stop any work on a second season.
Potential supporters of this show want to see women like them. The numbers of stereotypes being represented on this show serve to educate none, while adding to the shame the fat-phobic watchers expect from us. Being overweight is not love’s death sentence. Being overweight is not the (only) reason why you haven’t found love. Overweight women do not want, crave, or eat food all day every day. We do not find the kitchen to be a source of comfort. We are not desperate, whiny, and immature. We are confident, motivated, and happy people. I know this may shock some people, but some of us are even happily married.
Fox, your reliance on trite social memes to tell the tale of fat girls finding love has proved to be more harmful than helpful, as the people who truly need to learn a lesson about acceptance are having their opinions validated by your program. Your interviews are likely prompted by questions that aim to bring tears to the eyes of the competitors, making a better story for your viewers. Sorry, Fox, it’s not working. Everyone who has experienced this knows this story and has worked hard to get beyond it to a place of happiness and acceptance. Where are the stories of the women who love themselves and are on the show to find the man that can love them? Why continue the barrage of negative, acceptance-blocking self-speak? Clearly your intention was never to show “real women” looking for “real love” or else you would have included confident women in your group of contestants.